November Catch Up #1

I'm almost disappointed in myself for how my consistency with keeping up with these entries has diminished. I shouldn't be able to go 10 days without writing. Plus, being almost at the end of the year, I just want to keep up the stamina so I can finish off the year on a high note

Day 317: When Praising Someone Is the Wrong Thing to Do

Do you fan the flames or dump water on the fire? Honestly? You don't have to do either, but try not to encourage it.

Okay, I know, I kind of lost the fire metaphor there but hear me out.

If you're in a group of friends and a person who isn't present comes up in conversation, and you know that someone who *is* present doesn't like that person, don't compliment that person. Don't encourage their continued hatred of that person either, but it isn't your job to list all the wonderful qualities of a person at the risk of angering a person you're with.

I hope that made sense...

Day 318: You and Your Ex

"Anyone whom I once loved a lot, I still love a little."

It isn't every day that I feel a connection so powerfully to one of the values in the book. No, I haven't been married (I thought we'd gone over this?) but I was recently broken up with.

I know I don't really share super personal things on this platform, but here I am: I was just broken up with. And yes, I loved him. And yes, I was surprised. And yes, I think it was for the best. And no, I don't think I would have done it myself, so I respect his strength in doing it.

And I'm not going to stop respecting him because he made a choice about what was right for him. I think I'm allowed to be sad that that chapter is over, but I'm not going to hate him for it. Why waste the energy on a person I don't actually hate? He's a good person, we just weren't right together.

And I think the quote at the top is right, I think anyone I once loved a lot, I will probably always still love a little.