Day 25: "Judge the Whole of a Person Favorably"
It took me a while to grasp this concept completely. In fact it took me until my nightly Netflix plan to grasp this concept. There were two major times today when I thought about today's value, so I'll talk about both of those (you'll have to wait for the Netflix part).
As I was walking to my Comparative Literature class today, I began to think of the person who teaches it. They're very awkward and not exactly dynamic, but I reminded myself to see the best in them: they're incredibly knowledgeable, seemingly kind and accommodating, and their sense of humor isn't totally lacking. On the whole, I flipped my own image of this person into someone I could get along with easier.
Tonight, it really hit me when I was watching Friends on Netflix. I just finished season 4 and Rachel is trying so hard to get over her breakup with Ross so that she can accept Ross' marriage to a different woman named Emily. Phoebe, Rachel's friend, suggested that she remind herself of all of Ross' flaws in order to help her move on faster. This immediately struck the wrong cord with me. Of course I understand that this is a T.V. show and that even in real life, it would've been necessary for her to cope with her heartbreak, but it saddened me that she couldn't find a different way. Had I been in her shoes, I would gladly have thought of all of the good times "Ross" and I had had or all of the good things "Ross" had done. I would have accepted them, and then reminded myself that "Ross" was no longer mine. At least this way, it's possible to remember that "Ross" is a good person rather than force all his flaws on memories of him therefore erasing all the good ones.
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